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Christian Pacifism

I grew up being taught the ways of Christian morality.  I struggled to make sense of what were seemingly contradictory messages between words and the actions of our nation.  I was led to believe that freedom of religion was an expression of the various different Christian denominations that existed in the new world.  This ranged from Roman Catholic to Quakers, Methodists, Baptists, Lutherans and so on.  We all used basically the same Bible but we had demonstrably different understandings as to what was truly the message or teaching of the Bible.  How would a child or teenager evolve into an

Marriage and Religion Today

Back in 1994, I got engaged to Lynn and it was the happiest day of our lives.  Religion and circumstances made things less than perfect in the years that followed.  I was raised as a Christian and some of the teachings of Christianity can do harm when applied rigidly and without consideration for how we apply those ideas.  My mind was too immature back then, unfortunately.  Sometimes good intentions can be twisted.  There might be good intentions in preparing people for marriage and the seriousness of the commitment.  However, there is nothing that would have changed on the day of the marri

Love and Empathy Part II

In the previous article titled "Love and Empathy", I discussed how one acts when you see a friend is upset, hurt or in danger.   This also extends to your neighbors as well, when they are hurt, scared or in danger, we sometimes find the courage to intervene and in most cases, we call the police if someone is in danger.  The bystander effect is a glitch in this normal way that people act.  I also talked about how a therapist uses empathy to help another person.  The person needs someone strong but also very empathetic.  A victim needs someone to console them as well as being a source of stre

Love and Empathy

In other stories or articles, I talked about how a therapist helps a client deal with trauma.  I found that even as a young adult, as an undergraduate, I felt with my roommate.  For example, during one quarter at college, he had Mononucletitus, aka Mono.  One day toward the end of that quarter, I developed the symptoms that my roommate had during the quarter.    They did pass relatively quickly, as in 12 hours later.  Obviously, the disease did not inhabit my body for a mere 12 hours.  I intuitively learned that this would not be the best strategy for experiencing empathy.  A female client