I had just posted information in an article titled Reality vs Truth." These are some of the opening ideas to my book "Reality is Social." Let me go into my details about how this has and can continue to impact my life in the here and now and into the future. I started out as a Social Worker with a positive attitude about people in general. I still have that attitude but I know not everyone is good. I learned that the hard way. Back in 2000 with a wife who had Cystic Fibrosis getting suddenly worse in her health that year (this is a terminal disease) I was confronted with the demands o
I am currently writing a book entitled "Reality is Social" which is inspired by many of my experiences and observations as a psychotherapist, philosopher, and an academic ( a person with a passion and commitment to education and knowledge). I am influenced by the way in which reality is more often a matter of belief (or beliefs) than an expression of the facts. Those situations in which beliefs exist and are at odds with the facts and the truth will be an important source of insight and exploration in this book. I would argue that we are all social creatures and as such our reality is so
This is a story about captivity. I was a victim of a violent crime and instead of assistance, I was treated as if I was a criminal. The fact that someone believed I was a criminal did not and cannot change reality. Believing something doesn't make it true. Ideas about what a person believes do not change the facts about what really happened. Something happened in the past and the past cannot be changed. A lie can cause others to believe something that is false.
Back in 1994, I got engaged to Lynn and it was the happiest day of our lives. Religion and circumstances made things less than perfect in the years that followed. I was raised as a Christian and some of the teachings of Christianity can do harm when applied rigidly and without consideration for how we apply those ideas. My mind was too immature back then, unfortunately. Sometimes good intentions can be twisted. There might be good intentions in preparing people for marriage and the seriousness of the commitment. However, there is nothing that would have changed on the day of the marri
In the previous article titled "Love and Empathy", I discussed how one acts when you see a friend is upset, hurt or in danger. This also extends to your neighbors as well, when they are hurt, scared or in danger, we sometimes find the courage to intervene and in most cases, we call the police if someone is in danger. The bystander effect is a glitch in this normal way that people act. I also talked about how a therapist uses empathy to help another person. The person needs someone strong but also very empathetic. A victim needs someone to console them as well as being a source of stre
In other stories or articles, I talked about how a therapist helps a client deal with trauma. I found that even as a young adult, as an undergraduate, I felt with my roommate. For example, during one quarter at college, he had Mononucletitus, aka Mono. One day toward the end of that quarter, I developed the symptoms that my roommate had during the quarter. They did pass relatively quickly, as in 12 hours later. Obviously, the disease did not inhabit my body for a mere 12 hours. I intuitively learned that this would not be the best strategy for experiencing empathy. A female client
When a person has been traumatized and develops a condition such as Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder they may dissociate in different ways. One form of this is dissociating emotions, feelings from thoughts. A person will appear robotic or with no expression (a flat affect is used by mental health professionals to describe this). One can find this in meditative states as well as hypnotic trance states. In this state, a person doesn't make a good liar. The internal censor does not operate. If you ask someone in this state a question they will answer in a matter of fact way. In the movie
I want to talk about three different types of groups that I discovered in Wilmington, NC. To clarify, I was living in Wilmington, NC at the time and the groups are not the same. They are all evil and have created victims with similar problems or have exploited the same vulnerable people. In other places, I described my experiences and gave the impression that I was describing the same person or persons as well as the same groups. My knowledge of these groups began in the late 1990s. I was working in the mental health field and on different jobs, I would travel either to Sampson County